When I was creating my vision for this workbook, I thought about what I hear from transracial adoptees as an advocate, coach, and mentor. When reviewing the discussions I've had, the stories I've heard, and the notes I've taken, I discovered a theme.
The theme revealed to me was transracial adoptees feel ill-equipped and unprotected by their adoptive parents in the face of the realities of racism. To confirm the reality of this theme, I asked a group of transracial adoptees how many of them felt prepared and supported by their adoptive families in navigating the racism and white supremacy they faced, and all eleven of them said they felt they were entirely on their own.
In this workbook, I hope to encourage and challenge you to change the all too familiar narrative of white adoptive parents remaining silent, passive, and fragile. I request that they, in the face of their own adopted children’s discrimination and oppression, stand in the gap for them.
In what ways might the experiences of transracial adoptees be dramatically transformed if the weight of responsibility to protect and comfort shifted from transracial adoptees to their transracially adoptive parents?